Relationships follow rules. Whether you know the rules or even believe or care about the rules, they are still in place. Let me use the metaphor of traffic rules. If I drive on the freeway I must stay in my lane. If I want to change lanes, I put on my blinker, look over my shoulder and move into the space at the right speed to keep up with traffic. If I miss any of these steps, I may be in danger of a serious crash resulting in injury and even death.
Relationships follow rules. We can go through life ignoring the rules, not paying attention to them or just not even bothering to care, but if this is the way you live, your relationships are probably not very satisfying and perhaps even toxic and dangerous to yourself and others. I know a woman who says, “I am just too busy to care about all that stuff, why bother?” Well, talk to her co-workers, her kids and her husband (if she still has one) and they can tell you that she is difficult to be with and they steer clear when she enters the room. Perhaps you know a person who is always negative and saying that it is everyone else’s fault that their life is one dead end after another?